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G.R.O.W. Through Your Will To Act (Day 31 of Unstuck)

Brett — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 16:13:43 +0000

Well, to quote an old Barry Manilow song, it looks like we made it. (That’s one of the cheesy lines I’ve ever written.) Everyday in January, we’ve talked about moving forward in your life, about getting unstuck, about pursuing a preferred future. The time has come to be reminded of what is most basic and …

G.R.O.W. through Options (Day 30 of Unstuck)

Brett — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 04:15:21 +0000

I know I’ve said this before. But. Having only one option is a pretty good description of what it means to be stuck. So it stands to reason that a good way to get unstuck is to generate a lot of options and possibilities. Also this is a good time to remember what we’ve talked …

G.R.O.W. through Reality (Day 29 of Unstuck)

Brett — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 18:00:29 +0000

Reality. I didn’t start with it. I didn’t begin by asking you questions about the current state of things. Nor should you. It can be a little overwhelming. But eventually you have to come to it. You can escape facing reality but you can’t escape the consequences of facing reality. So the question is one …

G.R.O.W. through Seeing Your Goal (Day 28 of Unstuck)

Brett — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 00:09:21 +0000

Progress and growth are sometimes difficult to put a finger on, to see them clearly and not mistake them for something else. They may not look like you thought they would. A monk was asked what he did before he was enlightened and he replied, “I chopped wood and I carried water.” “So what do …

Recognizing Your Saboteur (Day 27 of Unstuck)

Brett — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 03:18:48 +0000

On Seinfeld, George Costanza was lamenting his inability to make a right decision. Kramer told him he should listen to “the little man inside you.” George replied, “My little man is an idiot!” Everybody has a little man inside of them. He is a voice of counsel, of advice. A great deal of trust seems …

The Courage To Try (Day 26 of Unstuck)

Brett — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 02:19:53 +0000

I’m a runner. One of the first maxims that spurred me on in the beginning went like this. The hardest part of running is putting your shoes on. It’s true. Just starting is a major hurdle. Sometimes having the courage to just get started is a major step in the process. We’ve been talking about …

Connecting with Others (Day 25 of Unstuck)

Brett — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 20:53:06 +0000

You’ve heard of people having “A-ha!” moments. Most of my “A-ha!” moments are “Duh!” moments when I remember something of which I have lost sight. I was reading a blog this morning about the type of training that really makes a difference in people’s lives. Of course, THE determining factor is not the material being …

Pride, Fear, and Staying Stuck (Day 24 of Unstuck)

Brett — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 01:47:50 +0000

It’s paradoxical, this relationship between fear and pride. On the surface, they look very different. Puffed up over against cringing. Head up compared with head down. The truth is that they are closely related. First of all, as I noted a couple of days ago, they are both the expressions of a self-centered heart. Sometimes …

The Horizontal Damage of Pride (Day 23 of Unstuck)

Brett — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 02:05:10 +0000

I’ve been looking over some old notes from Ken Blanchard’s work on servant leadership. If you have never read the book he co-authored with Phil Hodges, it should go immediately to the top of your reading bucket list. Lead Like Jesus is a classic. Here are some of the salient points related to pride: It …

Let Go of Ego (Day 22 of Unstuck)

Brett — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 03:58:41 +0000

Ego. I’m not talking Freud here. You could substitute the word “self” and you have it. We do two things with self. We either try to promote it or we try to protect it. One of those–the first–is otherwise known as pride. The second is fear. Either one will block you from getting unstuck. Pride …